SO… You found me 🫶🏽
OR maybe I found you… Sometimes, the right words can show up at just the right moment, and then something inside of you will recognize that and just go: “OH, there it is…”
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I’ll tell you a little about me. I’m a WOC (woman of color). I’m married to a white man. I have two disabled children who are the most demanding, luminous, and completely consuming little humans I have ever encountered in my entire life… They have both irreparably changed my life in these HUGE ways that I did NOT choose, but wouldn’t now undo… I am also spiritual in a way that some people find “delightful” and other people find deeply suspicious... (I’m actually probably BOTH of those things together, and I’ve made peace with that.)
…NOWHERE else I’ve been has held the whole complicated, gorgeous, heavy, and still very beautiful Truth of being exactly who I am… SO, I decided to create it for myself right here, right in between who I was told I should be and who I actually AM.
Better BedWench is a publication dedicated to my identity reclamation and where I share the transmutation of the weight of living my experience into GOLD (just like an alchemical work) …AND (hopefully) into something that even the both of us can use…
What you can expect:
Better BedWench is a weaving together of my personal diary, a lifestyle magazine, intimate email community, and survival guide. This means you are going to find real things here… things that are useful to you and maybe even beautiful.
You’ll find me writing about:
✨Love: the mundane and deeply rewarding work of building a beautiful life with someone who came from a completely different world than I did… Think: what works, what doesn’t, and what nobody tells you before you’re already in it.
✨Motherhood: unflinching personal stories about raising two young children with autism and special needs, raising children who carry multiple racial identities, and raising them in a world that will make them navigate things I can only partially prepare them for…
✨Identity and Culture: what it means and looks like to remain rooted in who you are and where you come from when your daily life looks totally different from the community you grew up in. This one is personal. This topic I write about carefully and honestly with love for ALL of the versions of myself that I’ve had to reconcile just to exist.
✨Home, Style, and Aesthetics: because we all deserve to experience thoughtful living and dwell inside beautiful spaces full of contents that reflect the true texture of our lives...
✨Wellness and Spirituality: the “Woo” and some of my personal practices… things that keep me grounded and present when everything is a lot. Some energy work, intuition, and rituals that hold me together... I share what works (for me) and I’ll never judge you for wherever you are on your own journey.
✨And Community: because the most valuable thing I can offer you ISN’T my writing… The women who find their way here just like you are extraordinary. I know this already, and building space for us to actually connect is something I take seriously.
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